You know how they say that when you get married, you and your husband become one? You should present yourself as ONE decision. Both of you against the world kumbaga. Easier said than done… I know. My husband and I try to practice this every chance we get…
Recently, however, I realized something even more beautiful in what we have…
So many things have happened since we got married. We’ve had to do some major adjusting here and there. We’ve learned the art and value of compromising. All of which I was warned would be part of our lives after the “I do’s”. And true enough, just like any other married couple, we’ve since had our ups and downs…
Pat and I are opposite in many ways. Confeermed!!! Opposites do attract!!! Let me give you an idea – I am a major cheese-ball, he is not! (He is slowly becoming one since we got married though… so yay for me!). While I tend to be “a little” impatient (ehehe), he has an endless supply of patience. I like to do things right away, and he likes taking his sweet time. I was born the worry-wart while he, the calmest person ever! I am a transparent person who has a hard time hiding (?) my feelings, while Pat… well… he’s an actor so… there ya go!!! Oh and yea, I cannot live a day without sweets while he can do without it for the rest of his life! Basta may sili happy na sya… I can go on and on with the “opposites”… But not until recently, did I start to see how beautiful this “opposite thing” truly is.
It was an ordinary day. I was doing my usual routine of sterilizing bottles and toys when my husband pulled me and hugged me out of nowhere! Okay so yes kilig naman ako. While we hugged, he said, “thank you for being strong when I am weak and thank you for allowing me to be strong for us when you are weak. I am grateful God gave me someone who perfectly balances me.”
Looking back to when we started, I realized that as we have been made “one”, we have continued to be our same individual selves. We have managed to make our “opposites” work for us to make us better TOGETHER. I still agree there are many times it seems easier said than done but I know now what they mean when they say:
We don’t need to ever change who we are when we get married.
Opposites or alike can work, if you both decide as ONE.